Music and Feminism

Last night someone made a comment about how he gets teased by other guys when they see he has female vocalists on his iPod. He said that he's ashamed to have Adele on it. And he was surprised when I got really upset over it. Why shouldn't I? My biggest goal in life, albeit the most unattainable, is to be that girl on people's iPod, the one everyone knows and respects. But that can't be me, according to this guy. Why should guys be ashamed to listen to female artists? Apparently it's because we're not the same as male artists. No, we're not. For one, we're female. Sorry for being born the wrong gender. And the other is that we don't get the same respect you do. Which, for the record, is YOUR FAULT. Males decide whether female artists get respect or not, and they're making the wrong decision.
Also, why does it matter if I listen to Taylor Swift? Just because you don't think she's good doesn't mean she isn't. Your judgmental thoughts don't effect her talents, or my opinion of her. You can tell me over and over again that she's not a real artist but I won't listen until you've heard her music and seen the way she writes. Is she not a real artist because you don't like the style, or because you don't listen to her and that means she's not worth anyone's time? Is she not a good artist because you don't think she can sing, or because you made up your mind before giving her a chance? Is she not a good artist because you don't listen to her, or because I do? Is she not good because your friends make fun of you when you listen to her, or because you've never given her a chance? Is she not a good artist because of her style of vocals, or because she's female?
You think you're right, but for once understand that just because you think you don't like her music, or any other person's music, doesn't give you the right to judge it without listening to it first. Don't make assumptions, or judge it based on what your friends say or what you have heard. Is the music good, the writing good, the singing good? Then why can't you like it?

Love
R
Forever and Always

(January 19th, 2013 Edit: It doesn't help you only listen to one freaking band and say every other musician is shit. How do you know if a band isn't good when all you have to compare them to a band from years ago that (let's face it) isn't as fucking good as you claim, you asshole)
(yes. it's months later and I'm still bitter)

Just Don't Ask

I don't know. I really don't. I wish that I could have been able to post but my life's kind of flipped on an edge in the last few months. Seriously, everything has been sideways since winter and I'm finally adjusting to my new position. It's been a bit of a bumpy road but I'm regaining my footing and reclaiming my pride. Honestly, I'm just happy I've made it this far.
It's a hard thing to be alone, but what's harder is being alone when in a room full of people, and that's been me all my life. I've been ignoring that nagging feeling of loneliness for years but it can only be kept at bay for so long. When Alex entered my life about seven months ago I felt vindicated for a few months, before there grew this nagging entered the back of my head to tell him what I'd kept in for so long, this secret I could no longer bear to keep, and one night I just did. I ripped off my figurative band aid and told him. But the wound was still open and it was just too soon. So now there's no going back and my life has been struck down. So I must apologize for my lack of posting. Hopefully you understand.
For whatever reason, life has been insane recently.
And this secret isn't something I'm willing to share, at all. I really only told Alex to finally get help and because I trust him. I hope not to hear questions over what the secret is or a mention of it. I'll tell on my own time, and not before.
I'll try and post more often now.

Love,
R