"Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future." John F. Kennedy

Sunday, 14 September 2014

Adventures in Being Single Round 3: This Is Freedom

What good's an introduction? Let's just go ahead and jump in!

Lessons In Being Single in August and (Thus Far) in September:

Lesson 1: I've Had More Boyfriends than Taylor Swift (Depending on Who You Ask)

Depending on how you qualify dating, I've dated between 2 and 7 people. Definitely 2, as we were together first for 8 months, and my second boyfriend and I were together for 17 months. When I was in seventh grade, I went on my first date. So that's one. And this summer I had a quasi-boyfriend, and went on two dates ACCIDENTALLY. (Yes that's possible, no I'm not proud, yes it's a problem.) And there was this week-long fling in the spring, although of course I regret that so incredibly much. 
But the amount of people that I've heard I've dated/am dating? That's ridiculous.
Yesterday a girl in band asked me who I've been dating recently. Because she heard I've been dating someone. Yeah, uh, NOPE. #singlelife and loving it. (Don't tell anyone but I do wish to possibly go to homecoming with this boy).
But I've decided that I wish to be single still for a while.

Lesson 2: Single and Ready to Mingle

Yes. I used that phrase. It's accurate.
I don't want to get tied down. I don't want to end up in a heavy, all-bets-are-off, touch and go, hundred-mile-hour-downhill-no-brakes relationship, wishing to be back here in freedom. I want the ability to hold a boy's hand because mine is freezing and not be thinking about someone else that I'm not even going out with because I feel a bit like I cheated.
You can't cheat on someone you're not going out with, Rex. It doesn't work like that.
And I don't want to feel like this because I was freezing. And I don't want to feel bad about chatting with him the entire movie, because I want to be his friend. I do. I don't know his last name... It's terrible...

Lesson 3: Freedom

I can wear what I want, do what I want, and say what I want. I can be myself without having to sacrifice anything for anyone. I can focus on whatever I want to. I don't have to explain myself if I disappear for an hour because I'm practicing piano or guitar, nor do I have to explain why I don't want to talk to people sometimes. I don't have to pretend to be something I'm not. I'm free.

Lesson 4: Dancing

I missed dancing. Because all my past boyfriends were too shy to dance at homecoming or any other dance/party. I can go crazy because I don't have to worry about what other people think of me at all. I don't usually anyways, but I suck at dancing.


LOVE YA'LL And WISH ME LUCK

R

forever and always






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